When I think of the word GRACEFUL, I think of a ballerina, a figure skater or even a beautiful white swan. But, adapting to change gracefully really has nothing to do with our physical appearance. It’s a state of mind.
Change is an unavoidable constant in our everyday lives. Sometimes it’s within our control, but most often it’s not. Loved ones die. Jobs end, as do relationships. People get promoted, couples’ bond in marriage, and babies are born. And guess what? The positive changes can be just as hard to adapt to as the negative ones are.
Fortunately, there are ways to adapt to change and feel graceful while doing it.
So, what are some of the things we need to adapt to?
Adapt to New Experiences. A new job, a new marriage, a new baby, a new home, a new school, or a new phase in life (like graduation). Even though these can be positive changes in our life, it can still be hard to adapt to the change. Feelings of anticipation and excitement, nervousness, being overwhelmed and tired with trying to adjust to learning new things, are all emotions we feel while trying to adapt to NEW THINGS happening in our life.
Adapt to Loss. A job loss, losing a loved one, moving from a home or divorce. These kinds of events in our life most often bring on feelings of despair, grief, loneliness, sadness and anger.
Adapt to Crisis. Things that happen in our life that we don’t anticipate put us in crisis mode. This may include any kind of emergency, such as financial, health, accidental, pandemic or sickness for ourselves or a loved one.
Adapt to New Stages in Life. Both young and old, we all experience changes with our physical body, including: natural aging process, hormonal changes, soul searching and mental growth. From experiencing life firsthand ourselves as a baby, toddler, tween, teen and adult, to raising a child who is in turn experiencing life for the first time, all while the all of you and your loved ones are trying to adapt to the changes all around you. Just about every feeling a person can FEEL will be experienced during at least one stage in life. Happiness and joy to inadequacy, fatigue, and hopelessness, and everything in between.
So, how do we adapt to these changes gracefully? Here are 5 ways that have helped me:
#1 – Self-Care Rituals
Self-care is the key! Having things you do each and every day will restore order to your scattered brain and help your neurons fire in predictable patterns to keep you in control. Start your day with morning rituals that affirm your value. Intersperse self-care moments throughout your day to keep you feeling refreshed. End your day with self-love.
Throughout your day as you face stressful situations, it may be helpful to have a routine to follow to help you manage it. Developing habits of controlled emotional responses will help handle unexpected (and routine) stressors throughout your day!
For me, if I start feeling stressed and overwhelmed, I take a walk outside, take deep breaths or kneel in prayer. Fresh air and connecting to God do wonders for restoring my sanity.
#2 – Meditate, Pray, or Use Breathing Techniques
Studies continually show the value of deep breathing, meditation, and prayer for your overall mental health. In fact, studies have demonstrated that a focused period of meditation thickens parts of the brain responsible for concentration, decision making and awareness, while shrinking other parts responsible for fear responses. The results are a sense of groundedness and an ability to respond to stress from a deeper, wiser mind-set.
Meditation doesn’t have to be a long, drawn-out thing — you can do it with only a couple of minutes, wherever you are.
Build moments of stillness into the rhythm of your day by placing intentional interruptions into the normal flow of relentless activity. For example, after completing one activity, pause before beginning the next, using the transition time between activities as a change to breathe a little.
Also, when feeling the weight of life on you, it can be helpful to focus for a short period on what’s going on in the body. Bring attention to the physical sensations connected to your breathing for a few moments and give attention to those areas with tenderness, especially if you are hurting or anxious.
#3 – Set Boundaries
An absolutely vital skill for maintaining a healthy balance between work and life responsibilities is the ability to be assertive when necessary. Being assertive means being able to say no; to refuse requests and demands when they are not healthy for you to take on.
In most situations, saying NO to others, even friends, families or employers, may seem selfish to others, but it is a mature and healthy kind of selfishness that is motivated by self-respect for yourself. It is not anything to feel bad about! Your mental stability and serenity are worth more than those things!
#4 – Essential Oils/Aromatherapy
Essential oils are powerful mood interrupters. Simply inhaling their aroma can completely change your perspective and set the stage to successfully reduce anxious feelings!
doTERRA created an emotional aromatherapy wheel that matches up the emotion you are feeling with the *Emotional Aromatherapy Touch Kit essential oil blends that are recommended for that emotion to help you feel more balanced. These proprietary blends provide targeted emotional health benefits for the entire family and can be applied every day to specific points on the body to help balance and brighten your changing moods. Here are some examples of complimentary oils for emotional situations that we might need to adapt to:
- Adapt to New Experiences: To help adapt to a new job or a new home, use *Peace Reassuring Blend to promote feelings of contentment, composure, and reassurance. For children, starting a new school or a new grade level can be scary. They can use *Brave Courage Blend to have courage in entering new settings.”
- Adapt to Loss: To help adapt to loss and the emotions of grief and sadness, use *Rose touch to help heal a broken heart or *Console Comforting Blend to give comfort to a worried, sad or unsettled heart. For children, moving away can bring feelings of grief and sadness. They can use *Stronger Protective Blend to provide a sense of resiliency when needed most.
- Adapt to Crisis: To help adapt to unforeseen emergencies, keep *Cheer Uplifting Blend on hand to counteract negative emotions and provide a boost of happiness and positivity when one is feeling down. For children, *Steady Grounding Blend helps soothe feelings of stress or anxiousness.
- Adapt to New Stages of Life: To help adapt to the energies needed to raise a family, try diffusing *Passion Inspiring Blend to ignite feelings of excitement, passion, and joy. For children who grow faster than their body can keep up, use *Rescuer Soothing Blend for relaxing sensations and to reduce feelings of tension for growing, tired legs.
Most recently, a new oil blend, *Adaptiv Touch, was created to help specifically with adapting to change. It helps boost mood, assists in centering, increases feelings of tranquility, soothes and uplifts and reduces feeling of anxiousness and tension. It has gained a lot of popularity because of how WELL it really works! It is very versatile and can be used for adapting to any experience.
#5 – Focus on Living a Balanced and Healthy Life
“To keep the body in good health is a duty…otherwise we shall not be able to keep the mind strong and clear.” – Buddha
Living a balanced and healthy active life builds our resilience and ability to successfully manage the disruption that change can have on our lives. This means a balanced diet, exercise, adequate water and quality sleep.
Even with giving our bodies the nutrition it needs, it still lacks many of the vitamins and minerals it needs to thrive. To put our best foot forward we need the essential nutrients, metabolism benefits, and powerful antioxidants designed to help promote energy, health, and lifelong vitality found in the *Lifelong Vitality Pack.
Another supplement that promotes wellness is the *Adaptiv Calming Blend Capsules. They help empower and encourage when adapting to stressful situations or acclimating to new surroundings. They are one of the best tools available to help manage the effects of everyday tension, anxious feelings, uneasiness, and worry.
Here are a few testimonials of people who have experienced the power of the *Adaptiv Product System:
“GAME CHANGER!!! I have SUPER anxious when going shopping. Grocery stores are the worst for me! I put the adaptive on in the car before entering the shopping center, breathe in a few times, then tackle my shopping. I’m a much better person using this oil!” – Rene
“My husband is an alcoholic. He is 52 days in recovery as of today, completely alcohol free, all on his own. He did not want to seek professional treatment. He has been diffusing Adaptive in his office at work and I have been applying the Adaptive Touch to him nightly. He has said it helps him to not feel so stressed, it helps to calm him, and it also helps soothe the anxious feelings going on inside. He has slept better and asks for them each night as we retire for the evening. I have never been so grateful for having access to this amazing Essential Oil!!! This one has helped bring my husband back to me and to our family.”
“Adaptiv changed everything for me! I have all of it – pills, rollers, drops – I use it to stay calm when people are trying to get me to lose my temper and say things I can’t. I use the drops to help keep my room calm so everyone around me stays mellow along with me. When I know it’s going to be a hard day when I wake, I take the pills to battle my anxiety and my temper. When I heard about it this summer, I knew it would be just what I needed! Love love love Adaptiv!” – Samantha
The beauty of life, and human beings, is that we are adaptable. We adapt constantly. We shed and we adjust. There are some losses that can leave holes in our lives, voids that could never be filled and we can learn to accept that certain losses cannot be replaced, fixed, or mended, but instead honor it for what it represented and meant to us.
Feelings of joy, excitement, euphoria, hope and anticipation of what is yet to come can come from positive change. It can propel us forward and motivate us. Sometimes it can seem impossible to see the positive changes amidst the tragic ones, however, like the seasons, we keep growing, and blooming, and living, adapting gracefully.
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