As you’re going through your cabinets, closets and bedrooms this Spring to get rid of things that are old or you no longer use, have you thought about how important it is to also Spring Clean your emotions?
Did you know that your outer world reflects your inner world?
So, most likely, if your closet is full to the brim with clothes you’ve forgotten about, clothes you can’t bear to part with or clothes that were very expensive mistakes, your emotional life is too!
Baggage. That’s what I call it. When my emotions are full to the brim and I feel like I’m on the verge of losing it. When it takes just a minor thing not going my way and I think life is out to make me miserable. Experiences, beliefs and stories that have accumulated over time that make me feel less than, unequal and not enough.
This kind of baggage would bring anyone to feel sadness, anger, frustration, anxiousness and loneliness. That’s why it’s so important to Spring Clean our emotions! This is KEY to health and wellness. Our wellness relies on a balance of our physical, mental, spiritual and emotional well-being.
Deepak Chopra has a wonderful 7-Step process that can help us declutter our emotions. I have found it especially helpful to use essential oils along with this process. Both tools are included below:
- IDENTIFY AND LOCATE THE EMOTION PHYSICALLY
Set aside a few minutes when you won’t be disturbed. Pick any quiet place where you feel calm. With your favorite calming oil (mine is Adaptiv & Brave) close your eyes and take 3 deep breaths. Begin to recall some circumstance in the recent past that was upsetting to you. It may be a time when you felt you were mistreated, an argument with your partner, or perhaps a past injustice at work. Identify some instances where you felt emotionally upset.
For the next 30 seconds, think in detail about that incident. Try to picture what actually happened as vividly as you can, as if you were reporting it for a newspaper. Here, you are the observer watching this event. You are not the event, argument, or emotional upset; you are merely witnessing what is happening from the perspective of your silent self.
Now identify exactly what you are feeling. Put some word on the incident that describes what you are experiencing. Be as precise as you can. Do you feel unappreciated? Insulted? Treated unfairly? Give the feeling a name. Come up with a word that epitomizes the painful experience. Focus your attention on that word.
- WITNESS THE EXPERIENCE
Gradually allow your attention to move away from the word. Let your attention wander into your body. Become aware of the physical sensations that arise in your body as a result of the emotion you’ve identified.
These two elements — an idea in the mind and a physical sensation in the body — are what an emotion truly is, and they can’t really be separated. This is why we call it a feeling — because we feel emotions in our bodies.
Let your attention pass through your body as you’re recalling this experience. Locate the sensations the memory brings up. For many it’s a pressure in the chest or a sensation of tightness in the gut. Some feel it as pressure in their throat. Find where it is in your body that you’re feeling and holding the emotional experience.
- EXPRESS THE EMOTION
Now express that feeling. Place your hand on the part of your body where you sense that the feeling is located. Say it out loud: “It hurts here.” If you’re aware of more than one location for the pain, move your hand from place to place. At every location, pause for a moment and express what you’re feeling. Say, “It hurts here.”
When you experience physical discomfort, it means that something is unbalanced in your experience — physically, mentally, or spiritually. Your body knows it — every cell in your body knows it. Befriend these sensations and their wisdom, because the pain is actually leading you to wholeness.
Journal your feelings. It is a valuable way to express the emotion. This is especially effective when you can write out your painful experience in the first person, in the second person, and finally from the perspective of a third-person account.
- TAKE RESPONSIBILITY
Be aware that any painful feelings you experience are your feelings. These feelings are happening inside your body now as you remember the pain, even though nothing is actually taking place in the material world. You have a choice in how you interpret and respond to emotional turbulence. Recognizing this is taking responsibility for your feelings.
This doesn’t mean you feel guilty. Instead, it means you recognize your ability to respond to painful situations in new and creative ways. By taking responsibility for your feelings, you can also gain the power to make the pain melt away. You’re no longer blaming anyone else for having caused the pain, so you no longer have to depend on anyone else to make it go away. Hold that understanding in your consciousness for the next few moments.
- RELEASE THE EMOTION
Place your attention on the part of your body where you’re holding the pain, and with every exhalation of your breath, have an intention of releasing that tension. For the next 30 seconds, just feel the painful sensation leaving your body with every breath. Some people find that making an audible tone that resonates in that part of your body where the pain is localized helps to loosen and lift the contraction away.
You can also experiment to discover what works best for you. For some people, singing or dancing does the trick. You may try deep breathing, using essential oils, or taking a long warm bath. Finally, if you have written out your emotions on paper, it can be helpful to ritually burn the paper and offer the ashes to the winds.
- SHARE THE OUTCOME
Sharing the outcome of releasing your pain is important because it activates the new pattern of behavior after the old painful pattern is released. Imagine that you could speak to the person who was involved in that original painful incident. What would you say to that person now?
Bear in mind that he/she was not the real cause of your pain. The real cause was your response. In your transformed state, you are now free. So you can share what happened without blame, manipulation, or seeking approval. Perhaps they intended to cause you pain, and you may have unwittingly collaborated in that intention. Maybe you would like to say you no longer intend to fall into such traps.
Whatever you say is totally up to you. As long as you have an awareness of the steps we’ve taken so far in this exercise, whatever you say will be right for you.
- CELEBRATE THE PROCESS
Now you can celebrate the painful experience that had taken place as the valuable material that helped you move to a higher level of consciousness. What was previously a disconnected, destructive, and disabled part of your psyche is now integrated and contributing its power toward your greater spiritual goal. Instead of responding to the situation with a pain reflex, perpetuating the problem, you’ve turned it into an opportunity for spiritual transformation. That is something to celebrate!
Essential oils are a perfect tool to use when going through the process of decluttering your emotions. Breathing in, applying topically or diffusing oils from doTERRA’s Emotional Aromatherapy System Kit will help you with all of life’s ups and downs. Here is a break down of the oil blends that are included in the kit:
doTERRA Motivate Encouraging Blend: Helps you unleash your creative powers and find the courage that comes from believing in yourself again. Go ahead and raise the bar–you can do it!
doTERRA Cheer Uplifting Blend: Provides an aromatic, cheerful boost of happiness and positivity when you are feeling down. Its sunshiny, fresh, optimistic aroma will brighten any moment of your day.
doTERRA Passion Inspiring Blend: Help you rekindle excitement in your life. Jump out of an airplane, dive into an ocean, or try something really scary like dancing. You will find the daring to try something new, as well as discover renewed joy for the current blessings in your life.
doTERRA Forgive Renewing Blend: Helps you discover the liberating action of forgiving, forgetting, and moving on. Start each of your tomorrows relieved and content.
doTERRA Console Comforting Blend: Helps you close the door on sadness and take your first steps on a hopeful path toward emotional healing. Bind your broken heart during times of loss to comfort the soul and evoke feelings of hope.
doTERRA Peace Reassuring Blend: A reminder that you don’t have to be perfect to find peace. Slow down, take a deep breath, and reconnect with the composed, collected you. Everything turning out fine begins with believing it will—and a few drops of this blend.
Let’s declutter our emotional baggage together this Spring (and any other time you feel the need). Clear out the old and bring in the new, allowing us to serve others more and harness our creativity and productivity in life. By making space for new beliefs and ideas, our potential will be endless!
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