From the time I was a young age, my mom and dad taught me through example
and with what they required us kids to do, to be hard workers! We had daily jobs,
summer gardening projects, learning how to cook, and yard work. Mom also
taught us the value of taking care of our bodies with exercise, healthy meals,
vitamins and other natural solutions like herbs and essential oils. This seemed
miserable at the time but as I got older I realized and appreciated this as one of
the greatest gifts they could have given me. Little did I know that what seemed
“mean” at the time would empower me with confidence, gratitude and happiness
as an adult.
When it comes to being a parent, one of the most common themes I have heard
when talking to other parents are phrases like “we want to give our kids what we
didn’t have growing up” or “we just want our kids to be happy.” Can you relate?
For those in my current generation who believe this way, what we might not
realize is that when we have these kinds of attitudes, although the intention may
be good, we may be doing more harm to our kids long-term than we might think. I
have made PLENTY of mistakes as a mother and I realize what I would have
done differently if I could do it over again.
I would encourage those of you who are parenting to remember that we are not
raising children! We are raising future adults. After all, don’t we want our kids to
become adults who know the value of hard work, how to make smart decisions
on their own, be humble yet confident in who they are, who think of and help
others and are grateful for what they have? Well, to do that we need to be
mindful of how we are responding, teaching, and guiding them each day. We
need to pay attention to the example we show them in our interactions towards
them and others. It is about empowering them versus enabling them to grow up
feeling entitled by giving them whatever they want whenever they want
something. Sure, maybe in the short term this will put a smile on their face, but
long-term will actually create anxious feelings, a lack of confidence, and feeling
very unfulfilled in their lives. This is the complete opposite of what we truly want
for our kids.
One way to un-spoil your children is modeling good health by not always giving
them unhealthy food or letting them be lazy with their physical body. But the
stakes are high. Today, many kids are overweight or obese. A healthy, active
lifestyle can help maintain weight. It is important to create healthy habits early on.
These will help you make smart choices for your family. Children imitate their
parents, so it’s important to set a good example. The tips below can help
EMPOWER your children to not be spoiled, to be healthy and happy.
Start the day with a healthy breakfast. It refuels the body and provides
energy for the day.
Let kids help plan and prepare 1 meal each week. Doing so will help teach
them responsibility as well as help them feel good about contributing to the
Give your kids more fresh fruits and vegetables. Find out which ones they
like and have them on hand so they will eat these in place of unhealthy foods
Drink plenty of water. Sometimes we get stuck on allowing her kids to drink
too much juice, soda, or other drinks. Nothing replaces water so teaching
them to drink this all throughout the day will improve their digestive system,
reduce unhealthy food cravings, and keep them from overeating.
Reward children with praise or fun activities, not sweets. So many times we
find “treats” to be a way of rewarding when there are plenty of healthier
options to reward kids for good behavior.
Limit TV, computer, and video game time. Encourage physical activity
instead. Include physical activities in your daily routine. Lead by example and
use playtime with your family fun and active.
Take daily vitamins and supplements that will help you get the nutrients your
bodies need. Use essential oils to manage mood, improve sleep, and boost
the immune system. Helping them learn how to use natural solutions from a
young age will distract them from wanting to use harmful substance in the
While studying this topic I came across an AWESOME blog called “Sleeping
should be Easy” where a mom teaches tips, tricks, and ideas for motherhood and
parenting. She has a GREAT article called “How to Un-spoil your Kids” you can
receive where she shares six suggestions to help keep your kids from getting too
SPOILED and instead raise them to be HAPPY and MATURE adults! I invite you
to check it out.
Raising a family isn’t always easy. You are busy, and so are your children! There
is a lot to do in little time. By being mindful with every day healthy habits, your
children will grow up to be mature, happy and healthy adults. You won’t have to
retract and try to UN-SPOIL them but instead will have much more success as
you guide them on their path as teenagers and adulthood!