Have you ever asked yourself, “Who am I?”
Do you remember the reason for the question?
When I look in the mirror and ask myself this question, it’s usually when I’m going through some hard
stuff…relationship changes, business direction moves, illness or family loss. I have to relook at who I
am and whether I’m being the person I want to be and was meant to be.
It’s more of a philosophical “soul searching” quest.
But, then inevitably, it ends up being more of a LITERAL “who am I” quest.
This is one of the reasons why there’s been some popularity to getting your own DNA test done.
People want to know where they came from and understand better who they are. I was recently
researching some information on family history and the reasoning behind getting my DNA tested. I
found this quote that made an impact on me:
“It is important to celebrate our heritage because it breathes life and meaning into our identities and
our knowledge of who we are. It is always important to explore the past and see how our heritage is
with us today” –Kalei Okalani Onzuka
As I get older I catch myself saying or doing things that in the moment make me think “Oh wow! That
was just like my mom!” or “My Dad odes the same thing!” I realize I am a product of my parents and
grandparents. I get to appreciate the strengths they passed down and strive to improve the
weaknesses that I’ve also inherited.
I look at my own son and can see family traits that are inherited from both his Dad and myself. When
we talk about them it helps us understand one another and thus creates a deeper connection between
us. Knowing that we are a part of each other through DNA makes me instantly feel connected to him. I
can help him see where he came from, who he is, and how important he is as part of our family.
In other family members, we share some of the same facial features, personality traits and musical
abilities, which also makes me feel connected to them. We’ve gone through some of the same trials in
life. We suffer from some of the same health issues. We were brought up in the same city, or living
similar lifestyles. All which make me feel connected to them. Because of this, I can turn to my family for
help to questions. They love me. They will guide me. They will support me!
Going back to my roots gives me hope and meaning in my identity because I know I belong and I
matter. The same holds true knowing how I relate to God. I know I am a daughter of God. I have a close
relationship with Him and I know I am of worth. I know he loves me. I know that I can communicate
with him on a personal level and be heard and listened to. He has helped me in the past and I have
faith that he will help me in the future.
God and Family are always my answer when I’m doing a bit of soul searching. Remembering the
answers to the literal question, “Who am I?” helps me find the philosophical answer to “Who am I?”
Finding the answers of where you came from can be life changing. It helps with personal direction and
goals, make important choices and evaluate how we are doing on this journey called life. Because you
can analyze how things were done in the past with traditions and culture, you can decide for yourself if
you want or don’t want to pass them on to your children. You can learn from the past.
It’s true that the past can shape the future. Knowing who you are shapes your life, your children’s lives
and their children’s lives. Knowing who you are keeps you grounded, let’s you know you belong and matter in a world where it’s hard to find your place.
If you are at a point in your life where you are asking yourself “Who am I?” I urge you to connect to
your roots, physically, emotionally and spiritually. You’ll receive the insight you need for the moments
you need it most.